Abu Hurairah (RA)

Abu Hurairah(RA) was brought up as an orphan.In the pre-Islamic time his name was ‘Abd Shams. When he embraced Islam, the Messenger (SAW) called him ‘Abd Ar-Rahman. His kunya was Abu Hurairah, which means father of the kittens; he was named so by the Prophet (SAW) because of his fondness for cats.

Abu Huraira(RA) became a Muslim at the hands of At-Tufayl Ibn Amr who was the chief of the tribe to which he belonged. After embracing Islam he accompanied At-Tufayl to Makkah after the expedition of khaybar. Thereafter he accompanied Prophet Muahmmad(SAW)  for four years only.This is more interesting because he alone was responsible for the preservation and transmission of more than a thousand hadiths. In Saheeh Al-Bukhaari and Saheeh Muslim, they are 608; 325  of which were agreed upon (i.e. reported by both Al-Bukhaari and Muslim), while 93 of them were only reported by Al-Bukhaari, and 190 others were only reported by Muslim. His hadiths reach the number 5374 with their reiterations. Ahmed b. Hanbal’s hadith reach 3862. Some record this number as 3848 and 3879. The hadith of Abu Hurairah in the Six Books and al-Musnad of Ahmad b. Hanbal that are not reiterations are said to have reached 1336 or 1579.

This is due to, two special features in the personality of Abu Hurairah: the first was his unique memory, and the second was his complete devotion to learning from the Prophet to the extent that he hardly left the company of the Prophet, except at night.

Abu Hurairah was one of the Ahl-ussuffah who almost lived at the masjid of the Propeht, since he (then) had no wife or children to worry about. In fact, Abu Hurairah’s devotion to learning as much as he could from Prophet Muhammad (saw) made him quit all worldly activities and did suffer physically in the cause. As Abu Hurairah(RA) mentions how he would be so hungry that he would tie a rock around his stomach to alleviate the hunger pains. So he took that opportunity tp learn the deen, sacrificing everything to attain it. He knew the value of his limited time with the Prophet (saw). After the Prophet ﷺ passed away, Abu Hurairah went back to work to earn a living for himself and started a family. He became very wealthy in the business of selling horses and colts. His business success indicates that Abu Hurairah did have the ability to earn a good living and run a business, and that during the life of the Prophet ﷺ he found it more worthy to learn from him “full time” than to do it “part-time” like other sahabah. He sacrificed his personal comforts to learn as much as possible from what Allah (swt) taught His messenger. He learnt from the Prophet(saw) by heart,he was not a scribe.

Imam Ash- Shaafiy (RA) said about him, “No one in his period was more capable of narrating traditions with such a memory than Abu Hurairah.”

Al-Bukhaari (RA) said, “Almost eight hundred or more Companions, followers (the generation after the Companions) and people of knowledge narrated through Abu Hurairah.

Regarding the specially strong memory of Abu Hurairah history tells us that once the governor Marwan Ibn Al-Hakam asked Abu Hurairah to teach him some of the sayings of Prophet Muhammad(saw) and ordered his scribe to sit behind a screen and write down whatever was reported by Abu Hurairah. A year later he called him in and asked him about the same traditions. To Marwan’s astonishment, Abu Hurairah repeated them verbatim, without adding or dropping a single word.

Abu Hurairah’s keen interest in knowledge is illustrated in the following incident. Zaid ibn Thabit reports, “Once while Abu Hurairah, a friend of ours and I were praying and remembering Allah in the masjid, the Prophet care and joined us. He asked us to continue with our prayers. My friend and I prayed first, and the Prophet said, ‘Amen’. Then Abu Hurairah prayed, ‘O Allah I ask of you what have been asked by my friend, and I further ask for knowledge that I will never forget.’ The Prophet said, ‘Amen’.”

At Abu Hurairah’s personal front was his mother who was still a disbeliever. Thus he persisted in preaching Islam to his mother, but she would not budge, insisting on her disbelief. Once  Abu Hurairah came to the Prophet(saw) with tears in his eyes because due to his dawah to her she became indignant and said few bad words about the Prophet. He asked the Prophet to pray for her guidance, and the Prophet prayed, “O Allah! Give guidance to the mother of Abu Hurairah.” The same day as he arrived at home,he heard noise of someone washing inside. His mother asked him to stop after a while she came out saying the shahadah. This made Abu Hurairah(RA) shed tears of joy.

Abu Hurairah was a man who spent his days fasting and his nights in prayers. He used to pray one third of the night, then awaken his wife who then would pray for another third, then he would wake his daughter to pray in the last third. Thus, not one hour of the night passed in Abu Hurairah’s house without prayers

Besides these Abu Hurairah was also known for his humility, generosity and piety.He got married to the woman whom he used to serve, and he was later appointed as the governor of Bahrain and Madinah by different caliphs. He changed from a workman to a master, from a lost man in the crowd to an Imam and outstanding man, from a worshiper of accumulated stones to a believer in Allah but his humility and piety never left him rather it increased.

At the time of his death, when he was 78 years of age while his visitors were invoking Allah to cure him of his disease, he was imploring Allah saying, “O Allah, I love to meet You, so love to meet me.”  And soon he passed away.

This was the man who played the major role in preservation of the sunnah of the Prophet (saw). Verily, Allah is pleased with them. May Allah join us with them in highest levels of jannah.

Biography of Imam Malik Ibn Anas (RA)

Imam Malik ibn Anas came from a scholarly household. His kunya was Abu Abdullah. His fore fathers were from Al-Asbah tribe in Yemen. He is also titled as Imaam Daarul Hijrah. All of his three uncles were scholars, even his elder brother Nadr ibn Anas was a learned man. Malik was originally known as ‘the brother of an-Nadr’. Then his own desire to seek knowledge grew to such an extent that people began to say, ‘an-Nadr, the brother of Malik.’ His Mother was Aaliyah bint Shareek bin ‘Abdur Rahman al-Azdiyah.

In his childhood Imam desired to sing, also he would spend a lot of time playing with the pigeons. The turning points from wish to sing and a pigeon obsessed individual to a great scholar can be attributed to two of these incidents. At one of the occasions when Malik could not answer his father over a fiqh question his father said to him,’’Playing with the pigeons has distracted you from seeking knowledge’’. Other instance was when he said to his mother that I want to be a singer and she replied that to be a singer one has to have looks and you don’t(this was her way to influence her child’s interest so as to bring him near to the deen). These two statements coming from the father and mother collided in the mind of this great person and then the Imam chose Ibn Hurmuz to teach him fiqh and adhered to him for seven years. . Ibn Hurmuz was blind and Imam Malik would study under him from morning till evening.

Imam Malik was tall,handsome,heavily built,white skin,wide eyed and had heavy long beard that reached his chest. As a person he would not go to markets even to buy things for himself rather he would ask someone to do the shopping for him. He would avoid laughing would like his students to be quiet rather than arguing. He would dress up in the best of clothes eat well and was fond of bananas. A person sent him a letter that he should live a more descent life. So Imam Malik replied saying that,”Allah gave some body the ability to find their pleasure in salah not in sawm or in haj not in zakah,you happen to find your pleasure in khushu ,ibadah and isolation. I happen to find my pleasure in ilm and teaching people, I’m happy with what Allah has given me, what capacities Allah has blessed me with and I hope both of us are on the straight path.” Whenever he would mention a hadith he would make wudhu wear clean clothes put a lot of scent. Imam turned himself to be an institution to make the entire Madina respect Prophet (saw) and his sunnah.

Imam Malik recited the Quran to Imaamul-Qurra’, Nafi’ bin Abdur-Rahman (whose recitation is the foundation of the entire Muslim Ummah today).In his early years he studied under Rabi’aturRay. Once when Imam was with Rabi’, Imam Zuhri asked Rabi’atur a question on fiqh. After Rabi’ answered;Az- Zuhri asked Imam Malik the same thing so he said,“My ustadh has answered”. When Zuhri insisted for an answer Imam gave an answer opposite to that of Rabi’. This shows his respect for his teachers even though he held an opposite opinion but out of respect for his teacher he did not like to express that opinion. Imam Zuhri who was a tabee’ taught Malik. Thus Imam Malik was a Tabe’ Taabi’ee. At the same time Imam acquired knowledge from other Tabee’ as well.  Nafi’ the slave of ibn Umar was another teacher of Imam Malik. Imam al-Bukhari said that the soundest of all chains of transmission was “Malik, from Nafi`, from Ibn `Umar. The scholars of hadith call it the Golden Chain (SILSILATUL-ZHAHAB). There are eighty narrations with this chain in the Muwatta’(the book of hadith compiled by Imam Malik).

Imam Malik spent his entire life in Madina where he studied Fiqh from 95 Shuyukh. It is these Shuyukh from whom he recorded the Ahadith in his Kitab-ul-Muatta.

Imam Malik had excellent memory as well. He would memorise ahadith by tying knots in a thread. Once in the process he missed one of the ahadith and got twenty nine knots instead of thirty. When he mentioned this to his teacher in order to get the missed hadith his teacher replied by saying that the people have become bad memorisers nowadays. This was how particular they were about learning the deen. Among his other teachers were Jafar as sadiq and Muhammad ibn Al Muqadir.

Imam started teaching at the age of 17.Abdullah ibn Wahab Al Masri one of Imam’s students remained and adhered with him for twenty years. He says,I learnt fiqh of Imam Malik in 1year rest of the 19years I learnt manners and I wish I had learnt manners for the twenty years.  Imam Shafi’who studied under Imam Malik for nine years said, ‘When scholars are mentioned, Malik is like the star among them.’

Once Imam Malik was asked forty eight questions, to thirty-two of which he replied,I do not know. This was how cautious and humble they were. He would not give fatwas before seventy scholars first witnessed to his competence to do it.

Imam Malik was a contemporary of 8 caliphs. He saw the downfall of Umayyid caliphate rise of Abbasid and was contemporary of five of them. Although he would accept gifts from the caliphs but he never subordinated himself to the state that is why he was put to torture. He even rebuked Al-Mansoor for talking loudly when some Ahadith were being discussed. Haroon ar-Rasheed had great regard for Imam Malik. He personally, with his two sons, journeyed to Madina to listen to the Muwatta. He invited the Imam to come to his camp in order to give lessons but the Imam refused.

He had the honour of occupying the home of Hazrat Abdullah ibn Mas’ud (ra) and conducting lessons from the same spot where Rasulullah (saw) spent his time for I’tikaaf, in the Masjid-un-Nabi.

At the end of his life he remained in his house and could not even go to the masjid. When he was asked about this he used to say that not everyone can openly explain themselves. He was ill for around twenty days before death and is buried in the Jannat al-Baqie cemetery. Imaam Maalik (R.A) recited Tashah’hud (verification of the oneness of Allah) and then said ‘With Allah is the command in the past and in the future’ before his last breathes.

Imam Malik was the embodiment of knowledge, intelligence, wisdom and taqwa who taught, gave fatwas and narrated hadeeths for more than seventy years.
He had two sons Yahyaa and Muhammed and a daughter named Fatima.

May Allah be pleased with him ! Ameen ! 

Know your rights, Muslimah !

Women and their rights

Women and their rights is a very debatable topic that has been around us from centuries. What are the woman’s rights in the society? What rights does Islam give a woman?  These questions leave most people confused and most end up following culture believing the practices to be Islamic. The rights of a woman in Islam are most often misunderstood due to lack of understanding.  Woman’s rights are also neglected sometimes due to prejudice, ego and male chauvinism some societies. It’s a norm to hear about women abuse violence harassment and sexism .In short no society treats its women as well as their men.

Despite of Islam being the only religion that gave women their rights over 1400 years ago that women in America and Europe have recently obtained, most Muslim women are not aware of their rights.

Here is a list of women’s right in Islam 600 CE that most women in the West have got recently.

  • Right to education
  • Right to ownership and independent wealth
  • Right to vote
  • Right to hold rulers to account
  • Right to choose marital partners
  • Right to keep their maidens name
  • Right to inheritance
  • Right to divorce
  • Right to custody of children
  • Right to engage in contracts
  • Right to welfare support maintenance
  • Right to run their own business
  • Right to birth control
  • Domestic rights

Now let’s have a look at the rights of women in some other parts of the world and other religions.

In Christianity, Eve (first woman) is blamed for the fall of man to Earth from heaven. However, as women rights are criticized in Islam it is nowhere in Quran is it mentioned that it was Eves fault.  Christianity also claims childbirth and menstruation a suffering from god on a woman. Islam does not make any claim like that On the contrary in Quran the pain and sufferings a woman goes through are a reason to adore and love women. Because of the hardships a woman goes through during child birth, heaven is said to be under mother’s feet!

According to Quran men and women have the same spirit there is no superiority in the spiritual sense between men and women. The Quran indicates again that mankind is the most superior of his creation; Allah refers that to both men and woman.  This is clear evidence how men and woman are both equal in the eyes of Allah.

Another reason why woman’s rights get question is due to some verses in the Holy Quran, which are misunderstood. One such verse is from(ch:4Vs 35)

Men are guardians over women because Allah has made some of them excel othersand because they (men)spend of their wealth (ch:4Vs 35)

According to the above verse men have been given distinction because they are made guardians of the house hold and the house hold expenses. If men don’t take part in their children’s training and upbringing they are committing a sin. The above verse does not mean a woman is inferior, in fact it shows the many responsibilities a man has been burdened with and no such compulsion on woman, to run the household.

Woman’s right in marriage :

A woman has numerous rights in Islam as was mentioned in the points above.  In marriage men are encouraged to be kind with women. Love them and treat them with extreme kindness.  Islam encourages harmony and love between the spouses. After all it’s the wife who is the primary witness of a man’s high moral qualities and his relationship with Allah .If his relationship with his wife is not good how can he be at peace with Allah ?

The best among you is he who is best towards his wife “

How can one claim to be a pious when he does not behave well towards his wife? He can only be good and pious to others if he behaves well towards his wife .It’s unacceptable to get furious or hit ones wife on the slightest pretence .

Wife’s right to an independent House

‘’ It’s necessary to to provide the wife with shelter as Allah says “Let the women live in the same style as you live in ,according to your means and annoy them not so as to restrict the, “

“It is necessary for the husband to provide the wife a shelter (home)that is free from his and her family members …taking into consideration both their economic standings  …a separate quarter within the house that has a lock separate bathroom and kitchen will be {minimally } sufficient .

If the husband desired her to live with his family members such as his sister, mother or any other relatives and she refused then it will incumbent upon him to provide her with a separate living quarter The reason for this is that she may be harmed in co sharing and she may not be able to enjoy her husband’s company in the presence of other people.

 

 

 

 

 

Economic rights of a women

‘Whatever men earn they have a share of that and whatever women earn,they have a share in that ‘

There is no restriction in Islamic law that prohibits women from working .A woman is allowed to work if she is married with the consent of her husband .she is entitled to equal pay .When a woman is engaged during her engagement period she is to be on the receiving side of gifts .During the time of her marriage it’s the duty of her husband not the bride’s family .He is supposed to pay for her marital gift (Mehr)The gift or dower given as a mark of respect to the wife at the time of marriage by the husband and is obligatory .It’s the sole property of the wife and neither parents nor any relatives have a right over it .

If a woman has any earning she doesn’t have to spend it on her house hold it’s entirely hers, but if she wants to she may give a part of it to her husband. The full maintenance and support of married women is the entire responsibility of her husband . At the time of divorce there are certain guarantees during the waiting period and even beyond for a woman’s support If the widow or divorcee has children she is entitled to child support.

The Prophet Muhammad (P.B.U.H) emphasized the greatness of the sin in one disobeying their mother more than the father. There are hadiths where they talk about Importance of mother over father.

On another occasion the prophet said “God has forbidden for you to be undutiful to your mothers

To sum it all up. A woman has a lot of value in Islam and has many rights. It is compulsory to respect her and treat her with honor and dignity.

Importace of Da’wah (part 1)

The Issue of Wisdom in Da’wa- Its importance in modern day western society

 

Quran “Invite all to the Way of thy Lord with Wisdom and Beautiful preaching and argue with them in ways that are best and most gracious”. (16: 125)

Allah has told us in the Quran “You are the best of people evolved for mankind, you enjoin what is right and forbid what is wrong and believe in Allah.” (3:110) Ibn Taymiyyah says that Allah explains that this nation is the best for the people i.e the most beneficial to them, the one doing them the greatest favour. This is because they constitute the total good and benefit for the people by their enjoining the right and forbidding the wrong both in quality and quantity and their message is for the whole world. Furthermore they uphold the institution of jihad (struggle) in the path of Allah with all that they have. Muslims are also continuing the job of the Prophets since there would be no other Prophet after Muhammad (saw).

The Prophet (saw) told the Companions “The Deen is advice and conformance”. They asked “to whom”. He said “To Allah, His Book, His Messenger, advice and conformance to the leadership of the Muslim and advice and conformance with each other in their general conformance”.

The people who have entered Islam recently do not really understand why is it that the Muslims with all their classical knowledge are able to form strong communities in the West. For the non Muslims, they observe that outside the masjid these very Muslims are barely heard. When they are inside the masjid they are vocal, doing many acts of worship and outside all of this is not even heard of.

So there are very few non Muslims who actually know what Muslims do, who we really are. Their source of information about Muslims is the media which most of the time is not true. And the Muslims who come out of the mosque discuss Islam only in their circles and not outside.

In our workplaces, colleges and neighbourhood we do not speak about Islam thinking that it is something personal something that just belongs

to us. This is one of the reasons why we Muslims are being treated in such a lowly manner. Its we who are responsible somewhere for not giving the correct picture of Islam.

In the West most of those who have migrated was primarily because of destabilisation of the countries in which they were residing. These people then must have wished to go to a place where there would get freedom to express themselves. A country like the United States- the greatest oppressor gives these people a chance to express themselves. So in way Allah gave these people an opportunity to leave their country and go to another country to spread the message of Islam.

In America, on an average, 78,000 people become Muslims every year (after September eleven). Before that on an average of 46,000 would become Muslims. One would wonder how did the numbers increase so drastically eventhough Islam was maligned.

Allah says in the Quran “They intend to extinguish the Light of Allah with their mouths but Allah will not let His Light be extinguished even if the unbelievers detest it.”

Those 78,000 thousand who have accepted Islam have mostly done through the other new Muslims and not the born Muslims. Not that born Muslims don’t do anything but the preaching of Islam by the mouth is basically done by the new Muslims.

“O Prophet invite to the way of your Lord with wisdom and excellent admonition2 and discuss things with people in the best manner. Your Lord knows best who has gone astray from His Way and He knows best who is rightly guided”. (16: 125)

This instruction is very important for those who are engaged in the propagation of Islam. They should always keep in view two things- “wisdom” and “excellent admonition”. “Wisdom” implies that one should use discretion in the work of propagation and should not do this blindly like foolish people. Wisdom demands that one should keep in view the intelligence, capability and circumstances of the addressees and convey the Message in accordance with the requirements of the occasion. Moreover, one should refrain from applying one and the same method to each and every person or group but should first diagnose the real disease of the addressee and then cure it by appealing to his head and heart.

“Excellent admonition” implies two things: (1) One should not be content with convincing the addressee with arguments alone but should also appeal to his feelings. Likewise one should not confine oneself merely to arguments in condemning evils and deviations but should try to convince the other of their evils. One should also warn of the worst consequences of those evils. Besides, one should not only try to convince the addressee rationally of the soundness and excellence of guidance and righteous deeds but should also create in him interest and love for them. (2) Admonition should be administered in such a manner as to show sincere concern for and the welfare of the addressee. Nothing should be said or done to create the impression that the admonisher is looking down upon him and taking pleasure in his own feeling of superiority. On the contrary, he should feel that the admonisher is filled with the strong desire for his reform and welfare. (Maududi)

This is what Allah has asked us to do. Now an important question that every Muslim in the West should ask is that for all the time that I have lived here, how many people have I spent time with a plan to deliver the Islamic message?

Take Advantage of Five Before Five

 

Assalam alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakaatuhu

Our beloved Prophet (sal Allaahu alayhi wa sallam) had been blessed with the most precise speech. Though the beauty of his speech was that though it was concise and precise but it was very comprehensive in its meaning at the same time. Therefore, when we read the pearls of wisdom that came out of the Prophet’s mouth, (saw), we find that these are in fact a priceless jewels. And SubhaanAllah one can reap multiple benefits and the blessings from these Ahadith. InshaAllah I will be discussing one of these Hadith which is the Hadith of Ibn Abbas (radi Allahu anhu) who reported that the Prophet (saw) said to a man while he was advising him:

“Take advantage of five matters before five other matters: your youth, before you become old; and your health, before you fall sick; and your richness, before you become poor; and your free time before you become busy; and your life, before your death.” (reported in the Mustadrak of Al-Haakim, Musnad Imam Ahmad, and others, with an authentic chain of narration.)

 

This Hadith had a profound effect on me. So I thought about sharing the lessons that I learnt from this Hadith. Our lives are just a passing phase. Every passing moment becomes a moment of the past. We live as if we will never die. And many a times we don’t even pay attention to the blessings mentioned in this Hadith. Or let me put it this way that we don’t even consider them to be blessings but just take them for granted. It’s time that we retrospect about these and InshaAllah make the best use of these blessings before it’s too late.

 

Your youth, before you become old

Youth is one of the most important times in a persons’ life, because they have strength, energy, passion and more free time. But the sad part is that is a normal for people to consider youth as a time for pleasure and

enjoyment. However, this is not the right Islamic approach. Islamically, when a person reaches puberty, they are fully responsible for their deeds. Hence the Islamic training is crucial way before the age of maturity is reached so that the child doesn’t find it difficult to practise his/her Deen. The Prophet (saw) gave the most profound advice to the youth because he knew well that their energies could be channelized in the best possible manner.

 

Your health, before you fall sick

Sickness is the departure of goodness and soundness of the body. It acts like a great barrier to performing acts of worship and good deeds, as most acts of worship and good deeds require some type of effort. If we fall sick, even temporarily, we will not find the means to perform these deeds. But its Allah’s infinite Mercy, if a person was doing good deeds, then became ill, and could not perform it up to the mark then InshAllah, Allah will reward them. But if a person was not performing good deeds, and then got ill, they will not get any extra reward. And sickness is not something predictable. Anything can happen to us. It could even be an accident, Allah forbid and we may never have the same capabilities again. Thus we need to make the most of this great blessing of Allah.

 

Your richness, before you become poor

We don’t know what we will earn on the morrow. We might be richer than today or become more poorer than what we are today. It’s all in the Hands of Allah. So the wise person uses his richness before he becomes poor. He invests for his future. As for the investments of this dunya, then the Muslim and non-Muslim are on equal footing; they both do that. Even the Prophet sal Allaahu alayhi wa sallam would store staple food items even up to a year. So this is obviously something which is permissible. We should make sure we have enough money for our family and our children and ourselves, Islam doesn’t ask us to not save at all so that we are not poor and we are not beggars. But as Muslims we can’t limit ourselves to this world, let us not forget that we also need to invest for the Heareafter. We should have a deep foresight because we will want to gain the Aakhirah. We need to invest for our permanent life in the Hereafter.

Yes it’s true that wealth is a fitnah (trial), it is a distraction, as Allah rightly says:

“Know that your wealth and your children are not but a trial for you and that Allah has with Him a great reward” (Surah al-Anfaal:28)

Similarly the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, advised us:

“Verily, for every nation there is a fitnah (trial and temptation). And the fitnah of my nation is wealth.” (Recorded in al-Tirmidhi)

One of the greatest trials of wealth, both earning it and spending it, is that it diverts us from the most important thing in life, the remembrance of Allah, all praises and glory be to Him. Allah tells us:

“O you who believe, let not your wealth and children divert you from the remembrance of Allah. And whoever does that, then they are the losers.” (Surah al-Munaafiqoon:9)

When we say, “That is spent for the sake of Allah,” we are not just talking about money, zakah, sadaqah, and charity. Of course, giving in charity is the best thing you can do with your money. But do not forget that the majority of income that we spend, and in fact for the mu’min, all of the income that he spends, can be for the sake of Allah as well. It also includes spending in the for one’s family (which is Ibaadah as well). This means thinking of Allah, spending for the sake of Allah, and having the intention of pleasing Allah subhaanahu wa ta ‘aala makes all the difference. Because only the one who does it remembering Allah, thinking about Allah, and doing it for the sake of Allah will be rewarded.

 

Your free time before you become busy

Free time is the most misused gift. In fact people proudly say that they are doing “timepass”. Thanks to the social networking sites, the entertainment industry, the television and internet, music, art and alcohol are all temptations which deviate us from our true purpose in life and snatch the precious hours of our life and we don’t even realise it. Free time is amongst one of the important blessings that Allah has given us. We need to use our time effectively and give priority to our Rabb and His service. This can be done by using our time to study understand and memorise the Book of Allah , help the poor and needy, contemplating the purpose of our

existence and our relationship with our Creator and other good deeds. And SubhanAllah it’s a gift which has been given to everyone. Nobody can deny that they don’t have this gift. Thus, if we have time available to us, then we have to make sure that we utilise it in the best possible manner for the Sake of Allah.

Your life, before your death

Every Muslim must realise that this life is a trial. Allah tells us in the Qur’an:

“[He] who created death and life to test you as to which of you is best in deed. And He is the Exalted in Might, the Forgiving.” (Surah al-Mulk:2)

 

As each day passes we come closer to our death closer to facing our Lord and the Hereafter. Our lives will soon come to an end, and if we spent all our time chasing after our own whims and this world – what have we prepared for the Aakhirah to show Allah ? The Prophet (saw) said:

“Three things follow the deceased [to his grave], two of them return and one remains will him: His family, wealth and deeds follow him while his family and wealth return and only his deeds remain with him.” (Recorded in al-Bukhari)

 

Only the good deeds that we perform in this life, for the sake of Allah, will benefit us in the Hereafter. So we need to use our life effectively to invest for the Hereafter.

We live only once. That is what people normally say in order to justify their indulgence in the life of this world. But it should rather be yes i live only and only once and how can I live this life by disobeying the Creator who gave it to me in the first place. If you notice all the five blessings mentioned here i.e youth, health richness, free time and life are something which we cannot regain them once we have lost it. Nothing in this world can bring them

back. So take the time to get your priorities right, before death overcomes you, as it inevitably will.

In the end I pray to Allah to help us utilise these blessings in the best possible manner, to serve His Deen and be His devout servants. All that is good is from Allah. May Allah forgive us. Ameen. This advice is for all the youth out there and specially myself.

JazakAllah Khair

 

Sana

How to make up after a fight

It's so common to get into fights and arguments with your friends and family. The closer you are the stronger the fights are. You will not really be angry about what a random person walking down the road might tell you but when someone you love fights with us, it affects us deeply. There comes a mutual feeling of betrayal and shared guilt when you fight with a family member or a friend. It's not always pleasant to pick up pieces after a fight but it's also important as muslims that we learn to overlook faults in our loved ones. 

How do you get over it? 

Here is a simple Five step process 

STEP 1-Get away from the place of the argument 

Do not sit and solve a heated argument. If the argument is already heated, it won't cool down unless one of you stops talking. Imagine a pan with oil on the stove, it's heating and getting warmer by the second. What will happen if you put water in it? It will scatter leaving scars everywhere which take time to heal. But remove the pan from the stove and come back after a while. What do you notice! It's cooled down. It won't burn you anymore. Now use this as a metaphor to an actual argument. Once you move away it will subside. If not subside, it will mostly stay where you left, but atleast You will return with a cooler mind. 

STEP 2- Do not get keep any residual anger within you

Sometimes after a fight is over, I realise where I didn't give a smart comeback and suddenly all these mean verbal comebacks start dawning upon me. Most of us get the urge to give it back in a fight, even if it's later on. What's worse ? We have text messages, email, Bbm, Facebook, twitter etc. places to remove our anger. Try avoiding that. I had a hard hard time doing that. You know like they say, 'nobody texts faster than a pissed off woman.' But, beware as it makes the fight even more complicated. 

STEP 3- Take some time off 

Introspect with a calm mind. Try to view the argument as a non judgemental third person. Try to imagine yourself as ten years older than you are, when you do that in your head you start thinking maturely. Works for me atleast. Soon, you'll start getting clarity. But while getting clarity make sure you do not concentrate on the other persons fault rather your own faults. That is what your goal should be, correcting your own faults. If you have said something wrong stand up and take blame. The first step to correcting is realising you're at fault. Until there is no realisation there can be no correction.
STEP 4- The next step should be repenting to Allah SWT. 

Allah is most forgiving. His mercy has no boundaries. He is ever merciful. Allah will accept every sincere repentance. 

STEP 5- The final step is to apologise to your friend for wherever you went wrong even for the remarks you passed as a result of your residual anger. While doing this make sure you don't point out her mistakes. Even if you didn't do as much damage as her, do not bring her behaviour up. Accept blame and only speak for yourself. Don't speak on her behalf. Most people don't like others pointing out their mistakes. Believe me, it's true. It takes a very big heart to accept what another one tells you. Maybe give them a present too, use sunnah!! Realisation is individual perception. It happens alone. You can not give realisation to someone else unless they want it. It makes ugly situations. So only apologise for yourself and accept blame. Find a balance and at no point am I asking you to become a doormat. Make sure you are humble and don't be argumentative. If you get angry midway keep reminding yourself that you are here to settle a fight and not to start a new fight. Remember your greatest enemy the shaytan wants you to fight and disturb the peace of your heart. Do not give in and remember your purpose. 

What does this do?
It's makes you the bigger person in Allah's eyes. You get a clean slate. Now it's upto Allah SWT to give the other person realisation. Leave it on him and make dua for them. No really, just leave it on Allah SWT. You will only be asked about your own deeds on yawm al qiyamah. You are not going to be asked what someone else did to you, Allah SWT already knows. He is Al Baseer !! Do you really need to tell him? No, he already knows. So bother about cleaning your own slate through repentance and not about worry about the other persons. Don't be concerned with another persons book of deeds, even if you care the most you can do is make dua to Allah SWT. 

When you try to solve problems and find solutions on your own very often you end up getting more drowned in your problem. It's never fool proof. But when you leave situations in Allah's hands, he heals them beautifully. The result is permanent. After you have cleared your own slate, give the person time. A true mumin will forgive a person as many times as he would want Allah SWT to forgive him. Do not be stingy of forgiveness. Allah SWT loves to forgive and overlook transgressions. That's why he loves those who overlook faults in his creations including their ownself and others around them.

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